Samantha: 51 Months, Week 1
Aedan: 15 Months, Week 4 (Week 69)
With Samantha starting preschool this week but Ben not yet starting classes, our schedule was still a bit more relaxed than what it will be come next week. I decided to take the opportunity to do two last summer excursions on the days Samantha didn't have preschool since the weather was going to be nice. On Tuesday I decided to take the kids to a splash pad and playground located in Hamilton. I heard about it from some other moms and wanted to take the kids but hadn't gotten around to it yet. We met another mom, Stephanie, and her son Isaac there as well so that way Samantha would at least have one other kid to play with. We arrived around 10:30 and played on the playground for awhile. Aedan was feeling better after being sick over the weekend, so he enjoyed getting out and playing more. Shortly after Stephanie and Issac arrived, we got the kids dressed in their bathing suits and went into the splash pad area. It had a button in the ground that you push to make the water spray, and it was really neat. It had a lot of fun water features, even more than the other splash park we would visit when we lived in Bloomington. Samantha and Isaac had a great time running around and getting soaking wet together. There were a few other kids there that they played with as well.
Aedan, on the other hand, is never very sure about water. He likes the idea of it, but he likes to get wet on his own terms, so he doesn't like sudden surprises spraying him or splashing him in the face. He also has a hard time with other kids running around and accidentally splashing him. Plus, he was still recovering from being sick and it was getting close to lunchtime which is his fussy time of the morning when he is hungry and tired. All those circumstances made Aedan very clingy in the splash park area. He kept wanting to play in the mud off the side of the splash pad where the water runs off, but I didn't want him to play in the mud because of obvious reasons, plus there were lots of wasps that were walking around in the mud as well. Aedan has reached the point where he wants to do whatever he is told not to do, so he kept returning to the mud pits and would get grumpy when I moved him away. I ended up wrapping Aedan in his towel and holding him most of the time we were there, which was okay because Samantha was still having a blast splashing and running around.
As it was approaching noon, the kids started to show signs of being done in the water. Samantha wanted to just lay out her towel on the grass and lay down, so Isaac and Aedan copied her. Aedan climbed onto Samantha's towel at one point when she had gotten up to do something else. Well, Samantha didn't like that and wanted Aedan to get back on his own towel, so she proceeded to push him. I gently warned her several times that she needed to stop and that it was okay for him to sit on her towel while she wasn't using it. She would not let up and then started kicking him and pulling the towel out from underneath him. I gave her multiple warnings, probably more than I should have, so then I told her it was time to go because of her behavior. I sent her up to the picnic tables to start changing out of her bathing suit. Well, she didn't want to leave so she had a meltdown which involved screaming, yelling at me, throwing her clothes, and trying to hit me. It took me quite awhile of talking calmly and even ignoring her for awhile to get her to calm down. She was tired and didn't want to leave, but her behavior didn't warrant us staying any longer. It was one of those things that I just needed to follow through on, even though I was totally embarrassed that she was acting like that in front of our new friends. Once she settled down, she was able to make rational decisions and got dressed by herself. I had her apologize to Stephanie and Isaac, too. It's so strange how we can be having a great day together and then all of a sudden her behavior can change so drastically.
Tuesday evening after dinner Daddy had another set of softball games, but Samantha, Aedan, and I stayed home due to Samantha's behavior last week when leaving the park. We figured it would be best to send her a message that she won't get to do special things if she throws a fit when it's time to leave. She was pretty upset about not being able to go watch Daddy, but it was a good night to play at home, have bath time, and get in bed at a decent time.
On Wednesday morning Daddy took Samantha off to preschool and then met me at the Miami Health Services office to be with Aedan while I got my blood drawn for the discount for the Healthy Miami Plan. I was just planning on taking Aedan in with me, but it worked out much better for Daddy to hang out with him for a little while instead. From there, I took Aedan to a play date with some other moms at the park by the TRI. I also needed to stop by Kroger and pick up a few odds and ends, so I figured it wouldn't make much sense to drive all the way back home just to drive back again. (Our house isn't that far away from Oxford, anywhere from 12-15 minutes depending on what area of town you're going to and how much traffic there might be, but sometimes that feels like a long drive to be doing multiple times a day. It will be nice, if we end of staying in Oxford for a tenure track position, to get a house closer into town and be more centrally located.) Anyways, Aedan had a good time playing with lots of other kids, and I enjoyed some adult interaction for a little while. The weather was actually rather cool that morning as a cold front was moving in with some rain later that afternoon/evening.
It seems like Samantha is still getting used to being out all morning long, three days a week, for preschool. It is really tiring her out, and she has been taking very good naps in the afternoon. In fact, both kids fell asleep with me on Wednesday afternoon. Aedan fell asleep as I rocked him, and Samantha fell asleep as I laid in the bed next to her. It's so wonderful to have these precious, peaceful moments with my children (for it makes up for the times they are screaming and yelling at me, right?).
Wednesday night was Samantha's first soccer practice and Daddy's first time coaching soccer. Once the semester starts he will just meet us at the soccer fields since he has class until 5:20 and practice starts at 5:30. However, that day he came home to have dinner with us and help me get the kids ready. We planned to eat by 4:45-5:00 so that way we could be ready and get to practice on time. We cooked sausage patties on the grill, which our kids love, so that worked out well. Sausage patties are one of the few things that Samantha will eat the entire thing without being prodded.
We all piled in the car again and went off to soccer practice. Samantha was so excited to be wearing her new cleats, socks, and shin guards. They had quite a few kids on the fields playing soccer, split into various teams. At the first practice they rotated around stations, practicing various soccer skills like dribbling, kicking the ball around cones, and shooting goals. You can tell there are definitely some kids who have a lot more experience playing soccer than Samantha does, but she had a great time and gave it good effort. She really loved that Daddy was her coach. (She even said, "Good night, Coach Daddy" when he was putting her to bed that night.) Since Daddy was busy on the field with the kids, I was on Aedan duty. That's one downside to having Ben coach rather than just being a spectator because now there's another thing that pulls the two of us apart rather than giving us time to spend together. I brought our extra soccer ball for Aedan to play with because I knew he would want everyone else's ball, but that didn't seem to tempt him. He just wanted to walk all over the field in the middle of practice, not understanding the white boundary lines. Eventually I had to strap him in the stroller so he would stop trying to run away. Here are some pictures and videos from Samantha's first soccer practice.
Toward the end of practice, dark clouds started rolling in. It rained lightly for a little while, but practice continued even in the rain. Ben told me that some of the kids started complaining about how they didn't like the rain so he turned it into something fun, saying, "Well, you know the good thing about the rain? You get to do a rain dance!" All the kids began dancing around in the rain, changing the mood from negative to positive. My husband is so wonderful, such a trooper in coaching soccer, and also so good at making people, kids and adults alike, comfortable in a variety of situations. A little while later we started hearing thunder in the distance so everyone started exiting the field. We didn't make it to the car before the rain let loose from the sky, getting everyone soaking wet. Besides for the rain, it was a great, successful first soccer practice. We are looking forward to seeing Samantha grow in her athleticism through playing soccer, as well as feeling a sense of camaraderie by being part of a team.
Since Ben hadn't started teaching for the semester yet, he took the day off from working on campus on Thursday to do one more family day. We decided to go downtown Cincinnati and visit Smale Park right along the riverfront. We've seen it several times when walking around before going to a Reds game, but we never had the time to actually stop and enjoy the park. There are many different fun areas for kids, like large fountains cascading down next to steps.
There is a playground there as well with not your typical playground equipment. They had metal slides, but also climbing walls, rope bridges, this large blue sphere that played musical notes when banging on it in a certain way, rocks to climb up, as well as log steps. It was a lot of fun and the kids had a great time exploring the playground that morning before it got busy and full of kids later in the day.
Under the bridge on the other side of the park were some other fun places to play. There was a large keyboard on the ground that you stepped on and caused chimes to play up above you. There was a large metal sculpture of a flying pig that kids could climb into. You then pulled on ropes underneath to make the pig flap it's wings and move up and down. Samantha rode in that for quite awhile. One of Samantha and Aedan's favorite spots was this water area with different places where you could pump water out and then control the direction the water flowed. Both kids ended up getting pretty wet playing in the water. In fact, Aedan sat in the water and threw leaves into the pool of water over and over again. We spent the longest here, letting the kids enjoy their time playing, and enjoying the beautiful weather and the Cincinnati skyline in the background. I'm glad that we chose this to be our last excursion of the summer!
After the carousel, we walked a few blocks away to eat lunch at Panera. It was one of the few non-sit-down restaurants around, and it is also a place we don't have nearby in Oxford. It has gotten to the point now, however, that we have to order Aedan his own kid's meal. In fact, sometimes he actually eats more than Samantha! They both loved their mac and cheese and had worked up quite an appetite.
Before heading back home, we decided to go back to the Smale park, get the kids in their bathing suits, and let them play in the fountains. They were a bit taller than what they're used to in Oxford, but the sun was shining brightly and the kids had a great time running around in the water and watching the water shoot up and down.
We had a great time together at the park that morning, but the kids were getting tired and we knew it was time to leave. Aedan fell asleep in the car, but we had Samantha stay awake until we got home so she could nap in her bed. Our friends Stephanie, Jim, and Isaac were coming over for dinner that night so that we could get to know them a little better and so that our husbands could meet, so were glad that our kids got good naps in that afternoon after having a fun morning of playing outside.
Our dinner with Stephanie, Jim, and Isaac went well. When we have people over for dinner, we like to make something that we would never make when it's just our family. On this occasion we made my family's lasagna recipe. It is super good, but makes a giant lasagna, way too much for our family of four to consume. They came over around 5:30 and brought a salad to contribute to our dinner. The kids ate like kids usually do, picking at their food and being coerced into eating enough to satisfy the parents. Samantha ate the salad better than the lasagna, which is not surprising. We had brownies and ice cream for dessert, and then just let the kids play while the adults talked and got to know each other more. They just moved to town this summer so it was fun to learn more about their family. Samantha and Isaac get along pretty well and had fun playing together. However, when it was getting close to the time for them to leave, Samantha had another meltdown, throwing some Barbie horses she had brought outside with her, refusing to share with Aedan, and I told her to go inside and sit in her room until she could act calmly. So then she was in her room screaming and crying, having a total meltdown again. I joked with Stephanie afterwards saying that it must just be her that brings this behavior out in Samantha. But no, in all seriousness, she has been doing this so much lately that it's hard to know what to do or how to discipline her in a way that's effective but also reduces the meltdown reaction that Samantha might have.
I feel like now that preschool has started and the semester is just around the corner, things are getting more hectic around here. On Friday morning Samantha went to preschool with Daddy before Aedan even woke up for the day. (The past couple mornings he has been waking up a little after 6:00, making noise for awhile, and then going back to sleep for awhile longer.) Since Aedan woke up so late and we had a slow start to the morning, we left for Kroger later for grocery shopping, giving Aedan and I just enough time to go shopping, get back home and put everything away, before I had to make a picnic lunch for Samantha and Aedan and leave again. We were doing a trial run for meeting Ben on campus so that I could continue going to Zumba on Friday afternoons. It's quite the process, but I think it will work. I bring Aedan along with lunch, meet Ben on campus around 11:50, he hops in the car, and I go to Zumba class. Then, Ben picks Samantha up from preschool and gives the kids their lunch. They just stayed at the TRI to eat lunch and played at the playground until it was time to come back and pick me up. Ben and I switched again, so that he could go back to work in his office and I took the kids back home to put them down for naps. It worked well, Samantha was very respectful and helpful, so it is definitely something we can still try to do.
That afternoon, this was delivered to our house: Ben's dissertation! Printed and bound at 451 pages. I opened the box and was filled with pride for my husband. I had never seen it compiled all in one place, and it is a tremendous work. He has accomplished so much in completing his Ph.D., and I couldn't be prouder. Ben does not give himself enough credit for all the research, hours of work, thought, and effort he put into not only graduate school, but this dissertation, in addition to being and amazing husband and father. I love you, Ben.
Friday night after our kids were in bed, Uncle Matthew, Aunt Christy, and Brielle arrived to visit for the weekend. Originally they had planned to come last weekend, but with Aedan getting sick, they moved their plans to this weekend. We were glad to have them, and Samantha was SO excited about seeing and playing with Brielle.Our guests stayed in Aedan's room so that Brielle could use Aedan's crib, meaning that Aedan slept in our room for the weekend. He went to sleep fine on Friday night, even though he was in a new place, but he woke up early on Saturday morning. Samantha woke up before 7:00 as well, excited to see Brielle, Christy, and Matthew. However, Brielle sleeps in until almost 9:00, so she had a long time to wait before she finally got to see her. We told her there was no need for her to wake up early since they sleep in later than us, but that doesn't do much good for Samantha when she knows new people are in the house.
Even though we had a slow morning, we had plans to make a trip to the Cincinnati Zoo together. The kids had a little time to play together while the adults got ready and we made our picnic lunch.
I had to include this next picture because it shows Aedan's feelings about having another baby around and having his sister's attention focused on someone else. Aedan kept trying to get her attention, but she was busy playing with Brielle, leaving Aedan feeling dejected. You an see his sad little face and slouched body language in this picture.
It was fun to see Aedan and Brielle play together. The last time Brielle was here back in January, she was sitting up but not mobile at all. However, this time she's crawling around, pulling up on things, and is very interactive.
We got to the zoo close to noon, and it was very busy. We parked in a totally different place than we had ever been before since we arrived later in the day. Since we came into the zoo at the back, we decided to ride the carousel first, giving Brielle her first carousel experience. She enjoyed it for awhile, but then had enough and just hung out in her mommy's arms for the rest of the ride.
We walked around and saw a few animals before going to eat lunch. We had a yummy lunch and Brielle and Aedan enjoyed sitting next to each other and even shared food with each other.
Our kids were still doing pretty well considering it was the middle of the afternoon, and they had woken up early that morning, so we decided to stay at the zoo most of the afternoon. Here are some pictures from our day together. We had a great time! It was a fun way to spend the day, and we had gorgeous, sunny weather, too.
I had fun holding Brielle for awhile in the bird house, and she was pretty interested in watching the finches, penguins, and turtle move around.
Saturday evening we picked up pizza for dinner since we had just gotten home from the zoo and didn't feel like making anything. Then, after dinner we took Matthew, Christy, and Brielle Uptown so we could let them try out some yummy Graeter's ice cream. As we have been doing when we go out lately, we got Aedan his own kiddie sundae with vanilla ice cream and sprinkles, and he shared it with Brielle. Samantha picked blue cotton candy ice cream and gobbled hers up. Matthew got some kind of milkshake, whereas Christy tried the infamous buckeye ice cream. I think they thought it was pretty good, too. From there, we went back home and put our tired kiddos to sleep so that the adults could hang out and play a game of Ticket to Ride together. We can always count on Matthew and Christy to play games with us when they visit.
Sunday morning we all went to church together and had lunch afterwards. Ben and I made a new recipe for chicken tetrazzini in the crock pot. However, our kids woke up pretty early that morning, especially Aedan, and he actually fell asleep in the car on the way home from church. Usually when I get him out of his car seat he wakes up, but not this time. He just laid his head down on my shoulder and went right back to sleep. I sat down on the couch and let him sleep on my shoulder while Ben lovingly prepared the rest of our lunch. It was nice to just sit and snuggle with my little sleepy boy. After awhile he woke up, and I tried to put him in his high chair for lunch, but he was just too tired to eat. He was refusing everything we tried to give him, so I decided to just take him upstairs and put him down for his nap. He was glad to be going night-night, fell asleep in my arms, but woke up when I tried to lay him down. Luckily, it didn't take him too long to calm back down again.
After lunch, when Samantha went down for her nap and Brielle finally fell asleep, Matthew, Christy, Ben, and I enjoyed time just hanging out, talking, and relaxing. Christy and I were able to go through baby clothes she no longer needed for Brielle, as well as take the next batch of 12 month clothes to start using as she gets to be the right size. We have SO many girl clothes that were given to us over the first few years of Samantha's life, so I am glad that we are able to share these clothes with my sister, helping her to save some money as well. They have just been sitting in tubs in Upland, so someone might as well use them!
Once Brielle woke up from her nap, the Clemons family hit the road for their trek back to the Chicago area. Our family had leftovers for dinner and in a spur of the moment decision, decided to go swimming at the REC since it is a free week. We can't afford a membership to the REC just to use the pool, so we always take advantage of the free weeks and go several times throughout the week. Samantha loves to swim, especially at this indoor pool where the water and air temperature is more controlled. Aedan loved the idea of being able to walk around in the kiddie area that is just the right height for him. Last time we came to this pool he wasn't walking yet. However, he is at the point where he wants to walk everywhere and have his independence, yet he can't maneuver around in the pool well enough to avoid falling over. Obviously, he doesn't enjoy falling face first into the water and getting a mouth full of water, but he doesn't understand that in order to avoid that, he has to let us hold his hand. This battle back and forth made him kind of frustrated at the pool. It's nice to go as a family and enjoy this time together playing in the water, even if Aedan isn't enjoying it the whole time.
Monday, August 24th, Ben started his second year of teaching at Miami University. His schedule is pretty good this semester with no early morning classes, and his classes are either Monday/Wednesday or Tuesday/Thursday, giving him Fridays off of teaching so that he can work on papers or applications.
Also on this Monday Samantha had preschool, and Andrea and I began our babysitting swap. After dropping off our older kids at preschool, she took Aedan home with her, and I had the morning to myself. It was SO nice, nicer than I thought it would be. I appreciated the time alone in my home to get some laundry done and get caught up on my blog, as well as just have personal, introverted time. I feel like now that I have kids I cherish my alone time more than I ever have before. I won't always just go home, but I can take my morning off to do whatever I want: go out to breakfast with a friend, go shopping by myself, run errands, or even just get things done at home. It will be nice to have this built in time to look forward to every week.
Plus, I knew that Aedan was having a blast at Bennett's house. They had a great time playing together and spent most of the time outside since it was such a beautiful morning.
Bennett's family is raising chickens in their backyard, and Andrea said Aedan loved the chickens. Apparently he was shocked to see them when she first opened the door, but then he smiled and really liked watching them. That is not surprising to me because he is really into animals right now. He particularly likes dogs, calling them "dug-dug," but really, he likes anything that moves around. He loves to watch animals and try to pet them or chase them.
After meeting back up at the TRI and picking up Samantha and Aedan, we went back home for lunch. Leftovers did not sound appealing to anyone, and mac and cheese takes a little too long to make on preschool days when we get home later, so we settled on quesadillas with pinto beans. Samantha and Aedan LOVE quesadillas and beans. I actually gave Aedan his own plate to have on his tray (the first time I've ever done that), and he loved having full access to all his food. He has been getting really good at scooping up his own food with a spoon, and most of the time will use his left hand. It seems like that is more natural to him, and oftentimes if he picks up his spoon or fork with his right hand, he will transfer it back to his left hand. We will see if this hand preference continues as he gets older. If he is left-handed, that would be kind of ironic since his middle name is Arthur, named after Donna's father, Aedan's great-grandfather. Donna is left-handed, and I think I remember hearing that Arthur probably would have been left-handed too, if they would have let people use a "different" hand back then. Anyways, they both devoured their lunch that day, and Aedan loved being able to dip his quesadilla in some sour cream. (He only tried to eat the sour cream with his spoon a couple of times!)
Monday evening after dinner, Samantha and I went out to get our hair cut together. We were both wanting to lighten up our hair by getting a few inches cut off. Samantha's hair has been really tangled lately, and I hoped that shortening it some would help with that. Plus, she will always ask if she can leave her hair down or just wear it in a headband, which really isn't an option when her hair is so long and thick. She did a great job sitting still for the hair stylist and even got a sucker to eat when she was done and waiting for my hair cut to be done. Here is my cute little girl and her new, shorter hair. This picture was from a few days later, but you can compare it with the picture above to see how much she got cut off. It's amazing to me that her curls always stick around! I am always afraid every time we get her hair cut that the curls will be gone for good, but it seems that, at least for right now, they are here to stay. And I think they look so good on her and suit her personality well. So many moms comment to me on how great of hair Samantha has. (I think she has the curly hair I always wanted when I was little.) She is a beautiful girl, inside and out, curls or not, and I love her. :)
(Blog about August 18-24, 2015)


































































